A second tip post on how to not lose yourself in an obsession. Any obsession really, but my thoughts lean towards an obsession with Asia. *This post does not apply to everyone reading it. Many of you may not go through a phase of obsession at all, but some might and maybe are so here are my thoughts on how to get out of that rut*
Okay, so for those who are in this bubble of obsession over Asia read on my dears read on. ♥
You may not even realise you’re in this bubble, but you are (unless you’re really not and you’re reading this out of interest). The best thing right now, and this is probably going to turn into some online therapy session, is to admit it. Adddmiiittt itttt! ADMIT IT. You’ve promised yourself you’re never going to marry a Westerner, only a gorgeous tall kpop haired sexy sexy sexy Korean that looks like Lee Min Ho (or K Will in my case). You’ve asked your hairdresser to give you razored ends which does NOT suit your hair type at all (ahem not me at all) and a fringe that is impossible to style in because it li-ter-ally defies gravity. And what about those times when, on occasion, you’ve excused yourself from a group outing in favour of being a couch potato with those episodes of Boys Over Flowers or Bleach. Tut tut m’dears.
Any obsession can be a little bit bad in a way. There’s no such thing as loving something too much but it can make you go a bit craycray sometimes. So I’ll tell you how I got out of this bubble and hopefully we can all love things in a nice hippie way and not go nuts!
So when I first got into Japanese anime and manga I went maybe a little bit over the top. But I’m sure we all do. It’s enough when you’re spending your whole summer inside watching anime! But when it gets to normal school days again…arhhhh. ‘Pftt one more episode I swear….kay one more…..two more then THAT’S IT…..fuck it.’
I think I probably dropped a whole grade because I spent my time watching anime rather than revising during years 9 and 10. *sigh* Don’t let this be you! At least have a bit of self-discipline! I made up for lost revision time and got my arse back in gear during years 11 and 12 so I’m getting there now. The trick is….not to get there in the first place.
Sometimes loving Asia can influence you physically, your appearance. It definitely did for me. Not really clothes wise and there’s nothing wrong with what you wear anyway, what you dress yourself in isn’t an issue here. But it was more my hair. I’ve naturally got dark brown curly hair, used to be ringlety when I was young but it’s more loose bouncy curls now, definitely not the type of hair that’s easily manipulated. I attempted numerous times to gain Mami Sazaki’s full fringe, I asked for Bubzbeauty’s razored ends and I drew an outline of K-On! Azusa’s bangs and gave it to my hairdresser …all on separate occasions of course not altogether! But I just loved how cute the Asian hairstyles were. It took me some time to realise that a thick, full fringe did not make the most of my features, razored ends did not suit my hair type and asking for an anime character’s hairstyle was not realistic. My hair is now cut into a short bob, yes influenced by Ella Chen’s style (that I blogged about here) but it’s tailored to me. I have blunt ends because it suits my hair, I’m growing my fringe out because it suits my face shape and the style allows me to wear my hair naturally curly as well as straight. I get the best of both worlds and it was even influenced by Asian culture!
Finally, sometimes loving a certain KPOP band too much can result in injuries. And not just to yourself either. Sasaeng fans. That’s all I’m saying. Don’t become one. Or whatever western equivalent there is.
So if you feel like you’re getting a bit too obsessed, promise yourself you’ll watch those episodes AFTER you’ve done your homework. Look at that gorgeous Asian hair you so wish you had and then look at your own and think ‘I wonder what it’d look like at it’s best…’ and by all means be inspired by that hairstyle but tweak it just a little bit. Don’t neglect your friends for your lurve for Asia too much, get satisfaction from both! And don’t try and be something you’re not, work on who you are and try and be the best ‘you’ you can be. Sure, we’d all like to be like our idols, sometimes we really want to BE them but there’s always good and bad in everyone’s lives so EMBRACE yourself and be your own best friend.
I’ve been wanting to write this post for a while now and I’ve finally got round to it. This post is all about androgyny and how it’s applied to the Asian race. For those who do not know what androgyny is it refers to having neither mainly male nor female physical characteristics making it, maybe, difficult to distinguish what gender someone is. *From this point on, I will be using phrases like ‘androgynous people’ and when I refer to ‘androgynous people’ don’t take it in an insulting way. Saying somebody is androgynous is not an insult but if you take it that way then fair enough. It is simply a term of describing someone who doesn’t looks insanely feminine or masculine.* You’ll have at least once in your life heard someone say ‘loooool looks like a girl’ or ‘paha that’s totally a boy though!’ when looking at an Asian. Comments like this usually come from people who don’t have the same interest in east asia as we do and if they do…they’re just trying to have a crap laugh and play the ‘dumb member of the group’. We shouldn’t go mental at comments like this though because, to some extent, these comments bring to light a decent point.
Some Asians are androgynous. But then again so are some westerners! Every country around the world will have a number of androgynous people. The point is mainly that Asia has a larger number of androgynous people than western et al countries. This is because westerners have a larger variety of physical characteristics e.g. blue, green, brown, hazel, grey, yellowy, maroony eyes, blonde, red, brown, black, thin and thick hair, black, olive, white skin with different tones, different muscle and boob sized, small and large curves and many, many, many body shapes from pear and apple to hourglass. The Asian race tends to have a smaller variety and more of the same little details such as thinner and shorter eyelashes, sparse eyebrows, monolids, black/dark brown eyes, black straight hair, petite or slender frame and usually less obviously different body types. Of couuuurrsssee Asians have different physical features, they don’t all have monolids, they don’t all have sparse eyebrows, some are muscly, some are more slender, some are short and some are tall. But the fact remains that westerners have a bigger variety of physical features – everybody clearly looks different and many Asians may look very similar. To us.
In a summarised paragraph; Asians tend to have less defined features. The Asian nose, many want it taller and thinner and more defined, monolids, many want double lids to make their eyes more defined. I’ve come to the conclusion that their natural faces are a perfect basic base. The Asian race was the first race after all, western features came afterwards. So their faces are the base, perfect for adding definition onto and not looking overdone which is why many Asian girls and guys can look amazing when wearing makeup. They can apply eyeliner and mascara and not have too heavy-an-eye. You could think of western features as natural makeup – but I don’t particularly want to think of it that way. The fact that Asians tend to have a clean basic-featured base kind of face, which is naturally so beautiful, means that any definition which would usually show a lot of femininity or masculinity isn’t really always there.
E.g. Westerners can have naturally long thick eyelashes which can give off a feminine look. An Asian may not have this physical trait.
*I’m going to take this opportunity to remind you all that I am not, not, NOT generalising a whole race, I am not saying all Asians fall into these characteristics and I am not saying one race is more naturally beautiful than another. Everybody is different. I am simply saying that these are just features mainly found in the Asian race and that westerners tend to have a bigger range of physical characteristics.*
The image at the top of this post is of the main character of the Taiwanese drama series Hanazakarino Kimitachihe, Lu Rui Xie played by Ella Chen. This drama is the first of quite a few versions of the series which is about a high school girl who sees a high jumper one television who she’s been inspired and influenced by, she disguises herself as a boy and moves to Taiwan to his all-boys-school where she stays and develops a friendship with him and other members of the school. She passes as a guy so well it’s unreal but when she stops and dresses like a girl my god she’s beautiful!
*It’s an amazing series I really want to watch it again! Awhhhh! What I’ve just told you is only a small fraction of the whole series which is quite a lot of episodes long! Watch! It’s brilliant!*
This picture is just one example of how much a girl can pass as a boy if she’s androgynous. This is why a lot of Asian cross-dressing or disguising-as-the-opposite-sex dramas are so successful, because they could actually pull it off if they wanted to. Look at Taemin from SHINee (Korean boy group).
Oh my god. What a guuurl! How his legs suit shorts…gawd…
So as you can see Taemin could pretty much be the most convincing transvestite ever if he wanted to be. The androgynous look is nothing to be ashamed of, nothing to insult someone with and certainly nothing that people should really comment on. Firstly, it sounds ignorant when someone looks at an Asian idol or just a random boy sometimes and say ‘erm no that’s a girl’ and secondly it’s impolite! It may not be anything to be ashamed of but people don’t want to hear that they look like a boy or a girl every day. Their looks shouldn’t matter when determining your opinion of them.
Now I did get some thoughts from people close to me on what you should do if you can’t tell someone’s gender. I think it’s instinct and common sense here. If you’re stuck in a conversation with an androgynous person, ask subtle questions that should reveal their identity. ‘Do you think blah blah is cute?’ ‘Don’t wear heels tomorrow haha!’ or how about ‘What’s your name?’ nyahahah!
Anyway I just wanted to get across the point that nobody should turn around and argue that people are being rude and closed-minded when others say Asians are androgynous because it’s not wrong. Most of them are, and it’s not a bad thing at all! The Asian race can do many things with their natural looks. They can define themselves even more, they can stay natural and they can even disguise themselves successfully as another gender! Why would this ever be a bad thing 🙂
Goodnight peeps! Sleep tight!